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A: Humans are interesting creatures. We schedule in everything we deem important, usually
because of outside pressure or appearances, and leave out what is actually important. Our close
relationships with the ones we love should be at the top of our list. But work responsibilities, kid
soccer games and American Idol seem to edge their way to the top. By the time we get around to
our spouse, we are too tired to do really anything about it.

Something else about humans – if we truly want something, we move heaven and earth to make
it happen. That’s how you and your wife have to look at your relationship – move heaven and
earth to carve out, and keep, couple time. Besides wondering what planet their libido flew off to,
making time for one another is a top complaint among my coaching clients.

Here are some suggestions that past coaching clients have put in their martial action plan and
implemented successfully:

1. Negotiate – that’s right, the two of you have to hash out and agree upon a date. For
example, set it for every Wednesday evening, every other Saturday night or the 3rd Friday
of every month. Write the date on an actual calendar in pen AND in your smartphone
with the agreement that there is no changing the date unless both partners agree upon it.
2. Just say no – this isn’t Nancy Regan’s no either. This is a “no” directed towards any
project, favor or situation that will (yes, will) crop up after you set the date. Saying no
will make you feel guilty at first. However, the more practice you get, the better you will
be at letting the guilt slide right off your back.
3. Switch date control – one date night you pick out and plan the date. The next time, your
spouse picks out and plans the date.
4. Create anticipation – desiring what is on the horizon will help the two of you keep action
steps 1 & 2. Step 3 can be a blast off point for anticipation. Leave notes with hints around
the house or in text messages, emails to allure to what the upcoming date night will be
about without actually spilling the beans about the date.

If the two of you still find difficulties creating intimate moments with one another, allow
yourself to indulge in the past, if only just for a few fleeting moments. When we first meet
someone and want to get to know them better, when we want to explore every nook of their
body, we put everything not essential to eating, breathing, keeping a roof over our heads and
family to the bottom of the barrel in order to create the time we need. Remember that time before
responsibilities edged out togetherness. All couples need alone time together. It’s not a luxury,
it’s a necessity.

After the first several times successful date nights, you will both wonder why it took you this
long to be happy again.

(Now, some use the excuse that it’s for “a book club,” and that’s perfectly OK!)

Some Ambiance stores have even needed an emergency shipments of Sex-and-Mischief products (restraints pictured), as this sleek line is an affordable way of adding some lighter BDSM items to your toy box.

What else are they asking for? Corsets, crops, restraints, ben wa balls and nipple clamps!

It’s exciting that women are getting inspired by Christian & Ana’s steamy tale. Anything that makes us want to step out of our comfort zone and role play is a step toward making each of us better lovers.

Have you read the ‘Fifty Shades’ books yet? Don’t wait any longer… they might just inspire a whole new dimension to your love life they’ve never thought possible!

When it comes to pampering, there’s no shortage of bath and body products being advertised as the perfect gift for Moms. But only DONA, a new line by System Jo, was created with aphrodisiacs infused into each luxurious bottle with her sensuality in mind. Designed as a daily ritual, DONA helps women awaken their libidos and connect with their sensual side – every day.

If you haven’t yet heard (and you’d almost have to be living in a cave not to), Moms all over the world are getting hot and bothered over Fifty Shades of Grey, the erotic trilogy from E. L. James. Not only are they devouring this tale of love and lust, but many are using the books as an inspirational outlet to indulge in some forbidden fantasies.

Another great idea for a stressed-out Mom is a romantic getaway. Don’t worry; you don’t need a lot of money nor travel very far to give her a luxurious night off. We suggest you simply escape to the McKinley Grand.

In this month’s “Ask the Sex Coach,” Allie helps a woman who is having a hard time connecting with a new boyfriend, who happens to be deployed in Afghanistan.

And last – but definitely not least – May is National Masturbation Month.  Celebrate accordingly!

Here are just a few of the ways masturbating benefits your health:

• Natural Pain Relief: Many chronic pain sufferers have felt the sting of not being able to have sex when they want to because their bodies won’t cooperate. Even those of us who’ve had occasional strong menstrual cramps, a sore back from doing yard work or other painful days can relate to the desire of wanting sex but not feeling up to the movements involved. Not only is masturbation (especially when shared with a partner) a great alternative to more acrobatic sex acts, orgasms can provide immediate pain relief, if only for a little while.
• Reduce Stress: The very act of taking some time for yourself to clear your mind of (almost) all thoughts and indulging in your private fantasies will start you down the road to a calmer head. Orgasms are all about your own pleasure when you masturbate, so the need to please your partner isn’t there to get in the way of your own indulgent release. The act of masturbation is healthy, and it’s a drug-free way to lighten your load and feel more relaxed and at peace.
• To Sleep, Perchance to Dream: Worrying about your family, job, money or the stresses of everyday can make it difficult to sleep. If you don’t want to use sleeping pills, count sheep or try to live with out sleep, try masturbating before bedtime. The combination of relaxation, and the calming hormones released by orgasm can help send you right off to dreamland.
• Reduce Cancer Risks: Recent health studies have revealed that the more often a man ejaculates, the less likely it is that he will develop prostate cancer. Since the prostate gland creates and stores semen, orgasm relieves the pressure on the gland. While fewer orgasms will not cause prostate cancer, masturbating regularly might just offer you a bit more protection against this terrible disease.  Help keep your prostate healthy and enjoy hotter solo sex. Women should know that medical research suggests that the natural pleasure chemical oxytocin, which is released during orgasm, may help reduce the risk of breast cancer.

So, let’s get healthy! Men, check out our latest and greatest masturbation sleeve, the Intimate Grip Stroker. And for women, we have a great new hands-free stimulator that you can wear anywhere: the Elite Vibrating Panty Liner!

A: I know a lot of military personnel, and one thing that keeps him or her focused in on the job at
hand is to have something or someone to come home to. If there is not a promise of something
positive to hope for, their head is not in the mission. Therefore, I think it is great that you want to
help him remember you and give him someone to look forward to seeing. Several ways you can
do this that are non-sexual.

Talk about what you would like to do with him when he gets home. It does not have to be
anything sexy or erotic, unless of course you want it to be. It can be a restaurant you both like, a
new movie, or an event that you both have an interest in attending. Comment about places you
have both been to before his deployment with the mention that you cannot wait to go there again
with him.

Send him frequent care packages; once or twice a month should be okay. Soldiers love to get
goodies from home. If you do not already know what he likes to read and/or snack on, ask him.
Homemade baked treats, such as chocolate chip cookies, are always a winner. In each care
package put a nice memento from you – a card, a clothed picture of you or a picture of an outfit
you bought to wear when he gets home.

Men do not usually like to talk about clothes, especially women’s clothes. But you can let him
know about the pair of jeans you bought and how your body looks in them. It does not have to
be a provocative statement about your back end but something like, “I’ve got a new pair of black
jeans that really hugs my curves. You’ll love them.” If you engage his imagination, he can “see”
you in many different clothes (or none at all) without you actually sending him a picture or
speaking explicated.

Lastly, you can play a game with him. Have you heard about the site, Post Secret? It is a web site
where people send their anonymous secrets. You can adapt that premise for the two of you as a
way to get to know one another better. Send each other a postcard or email with one thing about
yourself that the other does not know. For instance, one week send him a card that says, “When I
was in the 6th grade I had a crush on Johnny Doolittle and he broke my heart.” Or along the lines
of, “I love ketchup, but hate tomatoes or plain spaghetti sauce.” This way he will think of you
often and the two of you will know each other better by the time he gets back home.

Best of luck to you both!

Q: What can I say to my wife to get her in the mood for sex?

A: There are many causes for a woman’s libdo to be low or non-existent. The first thing you want to rule out is any medical reasons such as heart disease, diabetes and cancer and the medication that treats the disease. If physically she’s fine, next to rule out is depression, anxiety and the medication used to treat. Depression medication or SSRI’s kills sexual desire in both men and women super fast. It could also be a hormonal change. Is she going through perimenopause, menopause or post menopause?

If all of the above appear to be okay, then it could be plain old stress, worry or exhaustion.

For most women, actions speak louder than words. While women love to hear terms of endearment from their partners, what really gets their sex drives in gear is action. Not necessarily sexual action, although that will play a big factor during physical foreplay. When you know you are going to be in the mood for sex, think ahead and do things for her outside the bedroom. Foreplay for women starts way before the romping and rolling action begins.

You didn’t say whether or not you were married or living together, so I’m going to assume that you two live in the same house. What non-sexual action do you do for her on a daily basis or at least on the days when sex is wanted?

Do you help her with the housework? Cooking? Cleaning? Making the bed? Taking care of the kids/pets? Although the gender roles should be nonexistent, they are still very much alive. Get in the habit of helping out around the house. This will give your woman time to unwind and relax enough to entertain the thought of sex. Every once in a while buy her sexy books, audio or movies (not porn, but of a movie star hunk she loves) and let her fantasies help awake her sexual desire.

With just a little bit of preplanning, you and your partner can be back on the road to sexual fulfillment as a couple before you know it!

Two thumbs up to you for being in your third trimester and still wanting to have sex. With hormones being the way they are, women either love to have sex during their last two trimesters, or sex is the furthest thing from their mind.

From my own personal research and insights from clients, here are the top positions for sex:

1) Woman On Top – this is a great way for the woman to be able to control the speed and penetration of vaginal intercourse.

2) Dogg

ie Style – the woman is on hands and knees, keeping the belly out of the way until almost to the due date. At the end of the pregnancy the wonderful belly may rest on the bed during intercourse.

3) Spooning – this is a favorite of many couples, regardless if the woman is pregnant or not. It is amazingly effective in the morning so that morning breath does not pose a problem! With the woman lying on her side, the man scoops in behind her, parts her thighs and enters from behind.

Many women love the Missionary position during pregnancy as it’s easy on the back and on the abdomen, but as time progresses and a baby grows, it is just not a doable option.

Enjoy as much sex as you can when you can before your baby is born. Because after the little
lamb chop arrives, all you will be wanting is a good night’s sleep for many months to come!